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There is a story about two monks walking in the forest when they come to a stream. There is a woman struggling to cross and so one monk picks her up and carries her to the other bank. The monks continue on their journey but the one who had not carried the woman was, despite not saying anything, obviously furious. After some miles he broke his silence and said, “Our order prevents us from touching women, I can’t believe that you would carry that woman across the stream!” He is met with a smile from the first monk who says, “Brother, I put that woman down five miles ago, why are you still carrying her?”
Choose to put down the baggage; don’t carry other people around in your head. If you need to say something, say it but remember they will often feel as justified in their perspective as you do in yours.